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22 Unity SUNDAY 26 MARCH 2023 Prof. Marceline Naudi Department of Gender and Sexualities WHEN the P (patriarchy) word or indeed the F (feminism) word is mentioned, many men tend to recoil, get defensive, deride and possibly mock… What they fail (refuse?) to see is that Patriar- chy is bad for us all, regardless of our gender, and that feminism's main fight is against patriarchy (not against men) and is there- fore good for us all… So what is 'patriarchy'? Many definitions exist but it's mainly seen as unequal power sharing between women and men. The London Feminist Network (n.d.) defines patriarchy as follows: "Patriarchy is the term used to describe the society in which we live today, characterised by current and historic unequal power relations between wom- en and men whereby women are systematically disadvantaged and oppressed. This takes place across almost every sphere of life but is particularly noticeable in women's under-representa- tion in key state institutions, in decision-making positions and employment and industry. Male violence against women is also a key feature of patriarchy. Wom- en in minority groups face multi- ple oppressions in this society, as race, class and sexuality intersect with sexism." 1 (para. 1). Dale Spender (1986) sees patri- archy as a much wider phenome- non. 2 She states that a premise of patriarchy is 'domination' – the domination of women by men, of black by white, of poor by rich; it is domination glossed over by ra- tionales of competition and mer- itocracy (may the best man win) but it is still domination. And she points out that domination has another side – the reality of those who are dominated. Hence, patriarchy oppresses not only women, but anyone who does not fall within the expected norms of the dominant section of society. Patriarchal attitudes and stereotypes, furthermore, dictate the roles, responsibilities and the expected behaviour of women and men in society and in the family. It produces gendered ste- reotypes that women, men, and all genders, are expected to strive towards and attain. We all know these stereotypes – they are as- similated by us as we grow and are socialised, normalised, with- in our society. Men, for example, are to be strong, leaders, bread- winners; women are to be sensi- tive, gentle, caring. Women must not be, or appear to be, strong, leaders, earn good money; Men must not be, or appear to be, sen- sitive, gentle, caring. When we go against these gender norms we tend to get 'punished' – we may be rejected, made fun of, put down, and in more extreme cas- es, seriously assaulted verbally and/or physically. All this has many implica- tions… For example, whilst it is acceptable that women display vulnerability, ask for help, cry, show weakness, it is much less acceptable that men do so! Men are not expected to deviate from the 'strong' stereotype. This means that it may be more diffi- cult for them to accept this side of human nature in themselves, more difficult for them to seek help when they may need it - and if they don't seek help, they will probably not get it. Not getting emotional or psychological help when in need of it, may result in mental health issues. Con- sequently, suicide rates, for ex- ample, tend to be higher in men than in women. Women, on the other hand, are not expected to display an- ger and aggression (which are considered acceptable for men). They are expected to be passive, accept and defer to the dom- inance of men, as the 'natural order' of things. One of the most notable conclusions from a 2018 qualitative study on barriers to reporting of domestic violence include the predominant patri- archal attitudes in our society, which further contribute to mak- ing violence against women less unacceptable. 3 It is important to promote gen- der awareness because it increas- es the visibility of this hierarchy and system of power that is often the basis of both material and so- cial inequalities. The patriarchal system instructs and coerces us into our respective gendered positions, which results in ine- qualities, discrimination and vi- olations of women's (mainly, but not only) human rights, many of which we accept as part of taken-for-granted 'cultural' atti- tudes. And this is what feminism con- tinues to combat. Dale Spender gives us her understanding of Feminism as a set of explana- tions which make the most sense of her experience, and her life, and the lives and experiences of many other women she knows. 4 But she also explains that she chose to be a feminist for other reasons. She tells us that fem- inism is based on a 'better' set of assumptions than any other world-view she has encountered. She sees it as a fairer way of view- ing and organising the world. She assumes that human beings are equal, that we can learn to live in harmony with each other – and the planet – and that there is no necessity for violence, exploita- tion, persecution, war. These as- sumptions, she tells us, underlie feminist philosophy: they do not underlie patriarchal philosophy. So, I conclude by recalling the title of this short piece, patriar- chy is bad for us all, and adding, feminism is good for us all! "Feminism has fought no wars. It has killed no opponents. It has set up no concentration camps, starved no enemies, practiced no cruelties. Its battles have been for education, for the vote, for better working conditions. for safety on the streets… for child care, for social welfare… for rape crisis centers, women's refuges, reforms in the law. If someone says 'Oh, I'm not a feminist,' I ask 'Why? What's your problem?'" Dale Spender, 1990 References 1. London Feminist Network. (n.d.). What is patriarchy? http:// londonfeministnetwork.org.uk/ home/patriarchy 2. Spender, D. (1986). 'What is feminism? A personal answer' In J. Mitchell & A. Oakley (Eds.), What is Feminism? Basil Black- well. 3. Naudi, M., Clark, M., & Saliba, H. (2018). Barriers to help-seek- ing in gender-based violence against women: A research study. https://stopviolence. gov.mt/en/Documents/Docs/ Full%20Cooperation%20-%20 Zero%20Violence.pdf Patriarchy is bad for us all Rights and Being Patriarchy oppresses not only women, but anyone who does not fall within the expected norms of the dominant section of society